So I mentioned in my previous post that we are moving and that Shawn has been commuting on the weekends until we can sell the house and join him in Grand Rapids.
As you can imagine, this has been hard for Joe. It’s been most prominent in his sleep, or lack there of. He goes to bed at his normal bedtime of 8pm without any problems but has been waking up in the middle of the night yelling for me. Sometimes I can get him back to sleep after a quick trip to the bathroom, others he is up for hours. He freaks out if I am not in the room with him and I usually end up using my mom-ninga skills to sneak out of the room. He’s been consistently waking up at least once a night since November, when Shawn started with the commute. He’s now getting worse where he’s been up twice (or three times) a night. Out if sheer exhaustion, I’ve been having him come into my bed. This is something I have never done, unless sick, and I don’t want to make it a habit. (No offense to co-sleepers, just not my thing.)
I’m at my wits end trying to figure out how to help Joey, but I’m at a loss. He’s also exhibiting some other changes in behavior such as clinginess and anxiety when realizing I’m not close (such as when I run upstairs to grab the laundry or something.)
I’m really struggling with getting no sleep. I think I actually slept more when he was an infant! It’s making me less patient with him and adding to the stress of solo-parenting while putting the house on the market. Any suggestions (and good sleeping mojo) would be so greatly appreciated.
So, there has been a lot going on behind the scenes around here.
Shawn took a new position in November that’s in Grand Rapids, Michigan. He has been living there during the week and coming home on weekends. We’ve been trying to adjust and see if this could work long term, but it’s really too much for us to handle.
The stress on Shawn and myself is difficult, but it’s hardest on Joe. He misses his dad terribly and it is affecting his sleep and made him very clingy/nervous. Up to this point, he has been flourishing here and it pains me to see him struggle with it.
This has made us decide to sell the house and move so we can all be together. We’re so sad to leave our home, especially after all the work we put into it, not to mention our neighbors, friends and community that we quickly have grown to love. It’s even more heartbreaking to leave our family. I haven’t lived this close to my parents and siblings since I was in high school, and it’s been wonderful to have them be such a large part of our lives again. Joe’s had the blessing of having my parents around (even living with them for a time) and I know it will be difficult to not be so close.
We just finished having some painting done and placed the house on the market this weekend. I dearly hope it sells quickly, I want this transition to be as quick and painless as possible.
I’m optimistic that we will create a wonderful life in Grand Rapids. It’s a great community and reminds me of Madison, which we dearly loved. I’m looking forward to all of us being together again as well. Honestly, it doesn’t matter where Team Colley hangs our hats, along as we are with each other.
This month flew by with tons of Holiday fun. Santa came! He ate the cookies I left him and brought me some awesome toys. I got my Hot Wheels Track! I was so excited and happy.
We had lots of visitors, too. My cousin Luke came to stay for a few days before Christmas. We had lots of fun playing, jumping on the bed, wrestling, and baking cookies. Grandma Colley came to visit and brought me lots of presents. I miss her and keep asking to go to Ohio to visit. We went to Grandma and Grandpa’s house and saw all my aunts and uncles (more presents!) and also to see the rest of the Torto Family.
Lately, I’ve really enjoyed playing with all my new toys. Besides my Hot Wheels, I really like my USA puzzle, my rocket ship (kind of like a doll house, but for astronauts and aliens) and school bus. I also really love my books, especially The Gruffalo, The Watermelon Seed, and My Pixar Cars Book (I’m part of the story!)
Now I’m back at school. It’s been a little hard forme to get act in the swing of things, but I’m getting there. I just hope this awful freezing weather goes away. I can’t go outside and play in the snow! Not fair. Let’s hope it gets better soon. I want to ride my sled and build a snowman.
Keeping my hands busy and my mind calm, it’s currently more about the process than the end product. Although, it can be amazing that worries and stress can turn into something that keeps you cozy and warm.
This past month has flown by!
We went to Grandma and Grandpa’s house for Thanksgiving dinner. I was NOT going to eat turkey, so mom made me my own little pizza! I had so much fun playing with my cousin Luke. I got all the guys to play “Body Slam!” (which is just me yelling “Body Slam!” and doing a running tackle. Good times!
We had a fantastic snow storm one weekend and I had the best time making a snow man and a snow fort outside. I was so sad when the snow melted. I hope it comes back again soon.
Over Thanksgiving break, we went to a fun restaurant called 2Toots Train Whistle Grill. There were trains that went around on a track and even brought our food out to us. Plus, Thomas was on all the TVs there. It was heaven.
Mom and Dad also took me to the Dupage Children’s Museum, which was so cool! There were so many things to explore, I think that my favorites was the bubble/water room and the shadow exhibit. I can’t wait to go back again.
This month I’ve really been into playing with Thomas the Train and building the island of Sodor. I also have been playing with Lightning McQueen and the rest of the guys from the Cars movies, my other match box cars, and reading lots of books. My favorite right now is Green Eggs and Ham by Dr. Seuss and Mater Saves Christmas.
Speaking of Christmas . . . I am so excited for Santa! Our elf, Gerry, came back this year to visit me. We put up the Christmas tree and decorations, and mom got me an advent calendar to count down the days. I saw Santa at school and told him I wanted some Hot Wheels Tracks. I thought that I was going to get it from him right then, but he didn’t have any toys with him. But, he said he’d bring them for me at Christmas. I’m so excited, I just can’t wait!
Well, let’s just say that this past month has had its highs and its lows:
- More great weather to play outside in the leaves
- Halloween parties with friends and at school
- Earning ribbons at swim lessons
- Celebrating Grandma Torto’s Birthday
- A visit to Ohio to see Grandma Colley and Great Grandpa Sassy
- A new Thomas the Train movie from Grandma Colley
- Lots of fun things at school every day.
- Ear infections
- Being sick and missing out on trick-or-treating
- Vomiting in Dad’s car on the way to Grandma Torto’s birthday party
- Having mom remove a popcorn kernel from my nose
Now let’s get ready for Thanksgiving and Christmas!!!
Well, I’m all settled into a routine at school, but that doesn’t mean that we aren’t having fun. The weather has been really warm, so I’ve been playing a lot outside – and eating lots of ice cream- while I still can.
I’m really enjoying school. My favorites are going to the library, science, “gross motor play” – which mom says is gym class, and of course recess.
We went to visit a farm and got to pet all the animals, dig in the garden, go on a hay ride, and check out some cool old tractors. I also got to climb inside a fire truck!
I’m a big helper around the kitchen. My favorite recipes are banana bread and chocolate chip cookies and pizza.
Mom and dad took me to the St. Charles Scarecrow Festival last weekend. It was awesome! I rode all the big guy rides with Dad, my favorites were the “Spinning Dragons” and the “Flying Bobs” – the faster the better!
Hope everyone is having a fantastic Fall!
How is it possible that six months have gone by since my birthday? I guess that time really does fly when your having fun. And talk about fun!? This summer was awesome! We did so much and had so much fun, that I told mom it was okay to take a little vacation from writing my monthly posts. But, just like I had to start going to school, she needed to start up again. Besides, what else is she going to do while I’m there?
This past month we really packed in as much as possible. We went got back from our trip to Ohio and just kept going. Lot’s of pool time, trips to Lincoln Park Zoo, the park, getting ice cream, not to mention . . . I MET THOMAS! It was the best day ever in my whole life. I got to RIDE Thomas and Percy, meet Sir Topham Hatt, see all sorts of trains, and play with all things Thomas. I want to go do it again (I ask EVERY day!) but mom said that he had to go back to the island of Sodor.
Seriously, how cool is that!? I got a picture with Thomas!! The even spoke to me and tooted his whistle. It was the best!
And of course I have to mention that I started preschool this year. Am I getting to be a big boy or what? I really love it so far. My teachers are so nice and fun. We get to great things like play outside every day, do science experiments, go to the library, play with blocks and puzzles, and a million other things. I just had my school pictures taken last week, mom can’t wait to see them!Some of my favorite things right now are to read books, do puzzles, and play with trains, cars, and blocks. I am really loving to watch the movie Cars and play with Lightening McQueen, Mater, and the rest of the guys from Radiator Springs. Paw Patrol, Chuggington, and Odd Squad are some of my favorite shows at the moment. I am also super into wishing everyone a happy birthday (even if it isn’t) and singing in the car.
Looking forward to what Fall has to bring!
Big day for the little guy! Although Joe has been attending “camp” for about six months, today is his first official day of preschool.
He’s attending the Early Childhood Program at Davis Primary School. His teacher is the sweetest lady ever, Mrs. Gregory. “Mrs. G” to her students.
We’re all excited to see Joey start out his education and can’t wait to see how much he will learn and grow. Here’s to the Class of 2030!